Sometimes divorce brings out the worst in people. When this is the case, child custody matters can be very challenging. It is imperative that you find ways to set clear boundaries if you have a co-parent who creates constant co-parenting conflicts.
One of the most important things that all parents must remember is that their children are watching them closely. By setting boundaries, you provide a clear example of what is appropriate to do in these situations. It shows them that they can be in control of what they are willing to deal with when they are adults.
When you set the boundaries, you have to stand firm on them. Make sure that you have the terms of the parenting plan detailedto clearly convey what is expected of each parent. This should be a detailed plan that includes decision-making powers and co-parenting schedules so that both parents can refer to it if there are conflicts.
You can also set a boundary about how you communicate with your ex. One option is to only use a messaging service that records the messages so that there is a record of what is said. This reduces the chance of your ex claiming that you said something you didn't and minimizes the chance that your ex will try to manipulate you.
Make sure that you clearly document any instances in which the parenting plan isn't followed or that your ex acts in a way that isn't in the best interests of the children. This might be difficult to do since some points are subjective, but it is best to have written accounts in case you ever need to refer to them later.